Secrets to Consistency That No One Talks About

Most advice on consistency tells you to set goals, track progress, and be patient. But if you’ve tried all that and still struggle, the problem isn’t your habits, it’s something deeper.

When you read about consistency, you usually hear the same advice:

• Set goals.
• Prioritize what matters.
• Make a schedule and stick to it.
• Track your progress.
• Limit distractions.
• Be patient with yourself.
• Celebrate small wins.

This is valid (to a point.) These strategies can work. But if you’ve ever followed all this advice and still found yourself falling off track, you’re not alone.

Because sometimes, the issue isn’t about time management or external structure. It’s not about needing more motivation or discipline.

Sometimes, what we really need is to look upstream – beyond the habits themselves – and focus on the deeper forces shaping our behavior.

What if the key to lasting consistency isn’t about working harder but about shifting who you are at the core? What if it’s about understanding the invisible patterns driving your actions, reshaping your identity, and changing the energy behind the habits you’re trying to build?

Let’s explore a different approach to consistency – one based on internalization (Bob Proctor), identity (Lewis Howes), and energy alignment (Dr. Rangan Chatterjee).

Change Your Paradigm (Bob Proctor)

Bob Proctor spent decades teaching that our biggest limitations aren’t a lack of knowledge but the paradigms – the subconscious programs – that shape our behavior.

Here’s where most people get stuck: we don’t need more ideas. We already have an overload of information. The real issue isn’t knowing what to do – it’s whether we’ve internalized it enough to act on it consistently.

Proctor argued that most people don’t deeply learn, they just collect knowledge. They jump from book to book, podcast to podcast, hoping for that one insight that will change everything. But the truth is, real transformation happens when you stop searching for new information and start applying what you already know.

How to Shift Your Paradigm for Consistency:

1. Internalize, Don’t Just Consume – Stop looking for more external knowledge. Instead, pick one core idea that you already know is powerful, and live it. Re-read the same book. Repeat the same lesson. Mastery isn’t about information – it’s about deep understanding through action.
2. Repetition and Emotional Involvement – You don’t change your paradigm by casually deciding to be consistent. You change it by repeatedly affirming and emotionally engaging with a new identity. Tell yourself: I am consistent. I follow through. I am the type of person who shows up no matter what.
3. Act ‘As If  – Proctor believed that acting as if you’re already the person you want to become is one of the fastest ways to reprogram your paradigm. If you saw yourself as a consistent person, how would you behave? What would you prioritize? Make those decisions now.
4. Override the Old Story – If you keep telling yourself, I’m just not consistent. I always lose momentum, then that belief will win every time. Shift the story: I am someone who shows up, even when I don’t feel like it.

Build Small Habits That Lead to Big Change (James Clear)

James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, explains that true consistency comes from making small changes that compound over time. The biggest mistake people make when trying to be more consistent is focusing on goals rather than systems.

Clear argues that you don’t rise to the level of your goals – you fall to the level of your systems. This means that instead of fixating on big outcomes (like losing 20 pounds or writing a book), the key is to create daily habits that naturally lead to those results.

How to Apply Atomic Habits to Consistency:

1. Identity-Based Habits – Instead of saying, I need to work out more, shift to I am someone who takes care of my body. The more you reinforce that identity, the more natural the habit becomes.
2. The Two-Minute Rule – Clear suggests starting with habits so small they feel effortless. If you want to build a reading habit, start with one page a day. If you want to exercise, start with two minutes of movement. Small wins create momentum.
3. Make It Easy – If a habit is inconvenient, you’ll resist it. If you want to journal, leave your notebook on your desk. If you want to eat healthier, put the good choices in plain sight. Your environment should make consistency effortless.
4. Focus on Repetitions, Not Perfection – Consistency is about showing up, even if it’s in a small way. Doing one push-up is better than skipping a workout entirely. Writing one sentence is better than writing nothing. Over time, these repetitions build a strong habit.

By shifting your focus from goals to systems, consistency becomes something you do every day – not something you’re constantly trying to force.

Change Your Energy, Not Just Your Behavior (Dr. Rangan Chatterjee)

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee’s book Make Change That Lasts explains that consistency isn’t just about habit-building – it’s about understanding the root cause of why we revert back to old patterns.

He argues that it’s not the behavior itself that matters – it’s the energy behind it.

If your attempt at consistency is driven by lack, by the feeling that you’re not enough, then you’ll rely on guilt, shame, and willpower. And while that might work for a few weeks, you’ll eventually revert back.

Instead, if you come from a place of love – if you genuinely like yourself and believe you’re worth the effort – consistency becomes natural.

How My Purpose Can Help You Put This Into Action

Understanding these ideas is one thing – living them is another. That’s where My Purpose comes in.

The planners, journals, and coaching and teaching programs are designed to help you move beyond passive learning and actually put these ideas into meaningful action.

• Understanding Your Vision, Values, and Goals – Consistency is easier when you have clarity. Our tools help you identify what truly matters to you, so you can align your daily actions with your bigger purpose.
• Journaling for Self-Awareness – The My Purpose journals help you explore your own paradigms, uncover your patterns, and shift your mindset toward identity-based change.
• Daily Structure That Supports Your Growth – Our planners help you integrate small, daily actions that reinforce your new identity and build real momentum.
• Coaching for Personalized Guidance – If you want deeper transformation, our coaching programs offer personalized strategies to help you shift your mindset, break through old paradigms, and make change that lasts.

Consistency isn’t about more rules or restrictions. It’s about aligning who you are with the actions you take daily.

If you’re ready to explore this journey on a deeper level, check out the My Purpose Planners and Journals, and coaching, and teaching opportunities, and start creating lasting change from the inside out.

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